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In a nutshell:

-Smile. Even if you don’t love yourself, others will start to. Just takes a smile 

-Laugh! Make jokes even if they’re awful. Everyone loves good jokes, but bad jokes are okay even if people laugh at how awful they are or stare at you like you have two heads

-Stay positive! If life gives you lemons, churn um up and serve some lemonade in the midst of a war. And if the lemons are just OVERFLOWING, then.. rejoice! You are the first person to know what it’s like to swim in a pool of lemons! :la:

-And be yourself.. who cares if no one likes you. When you do find someone with similar interests, you have found yourself a true friend. It’s impossible not to feel sad when other reject you, I know, but it is so worth it when you have just one person who you can laugh with.

 

And if you still want to read the whole thing and risk severe brain damage , please continue!

(I wrote this little tidbit after writing the whole thing, as I realized it was longer than I had intended for it to be)


 

I would make this an official entry for some MOVE thing but I just kinda felt like writing it up, nothing fancy..

I wanted to start it off by saying I'm a horribly self conscious person and I admit my faults in being sensitive when I know I probably shouldn't.. at times. I over apologize at other times --which annoys some people and I understand-- or I just lack the gut to say 'no'. And out of everything, I've had major insecurities about myself due to various reasons.
 

I suppose this is targeted mostly to teenage girls but if this applies to you and you're not a teenage girl, I mean no offense, but I'd love for you to read this if you will!
 

Whether it's completely personal or due to things like bullying, even though I can't correct what's happened or is happening, I would like to share a message shared with me by many others that I personally find very important and valuable.

Though this probably and most likely sounds cliche, I really.. don't care. Some of you won't take the advice just because it is cliche or you may have heard it before.

Well I used to be like that, and for me, nothing would change my stubborn self but recognizing it on my own. 


So, I can only vouch for teen girls because I have been and am one currently. Even though I've been told I act differently or older, I'm still the age I am and even though I despise my almost natural insecurities, I have to make do with them if I want to overcome them.

 

I don't think I'm beautiful. Heck, I don't even truly think I'm pretty. And that's a big thing for many people. Not confident in the way you look. I could rant about personality too but I'm going to make this as short as I can so you don't have sore eyes when you're done.

 

It’s all about attitude, ladies.

Hey that’s cliché, I know.

I would post an example of my face when I look grumpy and when I’m smiling but hey, I’m insecure too, and I’m not so comfortable putting up images of myself for all of the world to potentially see. Figuratively, of course.

 

So start smiling! Be confident even if you think you have no reason to be. I know it’s hard. I try to do it and sometimes I do fail. But I’ve gotten better about it.

 

And everyone’s different. Sometimes it takes a friend to tell you that you’re worth living for. And other times it’s just you and yourself and you have to make that happen.

 

Stop complaining about what you don’t have, it doesn’t make you gain anything. It’s the most contradictory and hypocritical thing you can do. Complaining only makes you lessen your odds of making the friends you might not have. And so does frowning. I had my own period of life where I was just broken. And I wouldn’t smile or talk to anyone, just sit by myself, drawing. And it took years of miraculously-made friends, to change that back to who I was. I was lucky, the girl that took me in her group was also new and looking for friends.

 

But needless to say, I know some of you don’t have that luxury. And I’m sorry. But what can I do? Write this entry in hopes it does something?

 

Well how did you know :dummy:

 

Smile :3 Hold your chin up. I’ve made friends who are still being bullied, and some are just so depressed that it takes hours of coaxing to bring them to even smile once. And that’s okay, baby steps are alright. But others smile throughout the whole thing.

And I’ve known people who have killed themselves. And I’m not saying they had no reason to.

But I won’t just stand and watch because even though at times I don’t know the person, I don’t care. They’re still people.

 

So by now, some of you are going “I’ve seen journals like this A HUNDRED times”

and then “I’ve seen the person say that they know I’ve seen these journals a hundred times” and then so on and so forth.

 

But oh well!

I’m making another. Too bad?

And to wrap it up because I have to go eat in a second (random, I know)

Just don’t give up. I have at times and come close to, and I know it’s different for everybody. But you’re you and though I don’t know you, I don’t care. I wish I could personally know everyone, but I can’t.

 

And so what if everyone says you’re ugly. I know the feeling. And it tears you down. Even if they’re just “joking”.

People can be mean and inconsiderate and not mean things. But I’m sorry I can’t change that.

 

Just smile.

I didn’t have any friends for so long. I made a handful after 10 moves now, and sometimes I’ll go a whole year without having made a single true friend and I know how that feels, believe me. But I had to decide when to stop being depressed about it, and start learning to be myself again.

Making bad jokes and puns… drawing like I got all the time in the world.. and just really being me. Even if some might find me weird, I learned to smile. I’ve been told over and over and it took years for me to realize that’s all it took. I have a few friends at school now and though I may not be as close to them as their other friends but that’s okay. They’re my friends right now and that’s what matters 


And hey, no one’s perfect. Even now I still have my moments where I’m sad and it affects the way I behave. But stand straight, keep your head up, and learn to pick yourself back up. Sometimes I need a friend to help me, and others I just need time alone. And if you think I just love admitting all of this, please. I don’t think anyone likes admitting their faults.

 

But today, (yes this is awkward? bear with me) I was in the bathroom and taped on the door of the bathroom stall was a note directed as an answer to a statement carved in pencil above it that indicated the writer was starving themselves. Whoever this person was, she very kindly wrote the note in hopes that the person would see the note and read it. Some may say that good deeds go unnoticed. But look, I noticed. And it was my wake up call of the day to motivate me to write this.

 

So please, I’m not a therapist or psychologist. I have no idea how to “professionally” help people, but I make do with what I got.

 

I don’t care if you say you’re not worth it, I’ve had that comment over and over. What sticks out to me are comments that say they will try and be worth it.

 

That’s what makes the difference.

…so…smile :3

 

-Celine

 

 

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Keyotea Featured By Owner Jan 14, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
I need to keep this in mind because, I often feel like my ultimate best is not good enough to I must push myself harder than before.  Especially since on my Streetpass plaza top 20 best list, I'm not on it.
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Chuggaamiku Featured By Owner Dec 19, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
My mother tells me to walk in like you own the place and always look nice and act nice.  Then people will give you everything without you doing anything.
So, yeah.  I can agree with all of this, it sounds good!
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Capukat Featured By Owner Dec 19, 2013   General Artist
Hehe :hug:

That's good C:!!
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Chuggaamiku Featured By Owner Dec 20, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Thanks!
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x-PaintedLynx Featured By Owner Nov 25, 2013  Student Digital Artist
LEMONS SHALL BE THE ANSWER *YanksLemonTreeOutOfGardenHurrHurr*
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PeteeP-Pie Featured By Owner Nov 25, 2013   General Artist
LEMONS!
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ShadowStealer44 Featured By Owner Nov 25, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
My gosh... I read this while listening to the song "I'm Just Your Problem" (yes, the one from Adventure Time! o3o) and I nearly cried. Thanks for this. Seriously, thank you. Llama Emoji 02 (Blush) [V1] Pikachu want it pikachu Rup cheeks plz Pikachu Loves It Plz Pikachus nuzzles cheeks 
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Pikachulord Featured By Owner Nov 25, 2013  Student Artist
so mach pikachuu!
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ShadowStealer44 Featured By Owner Nov 25, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Crazy La :iconlacrazyplz: Thank you!
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Pikachulord Featured By Owner Nov 27, 2013  Student Artist
Welcome
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ShadowStealer44 Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Llama Emoji 02 (Blush) [V1] 
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Pikachulord Featured By Owner Dec 14, 2013  Student Artist
:D 
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OurMotherJenova Featured By Owner Nov 25, 2013  Student General Artist
Amazing job. Thank you.
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BreakinBenny Featured By Owner Nov 25, 2013  Student Filmographer
Neat writing here, I can actually see depth and meaning in this.


(I wouldn't care about people's opinions on me either way, it's what they think)
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Sushiprincess Featured By Owner Nov 25, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Make stupid faces to yourself in the bathroom mirror - it makes you laugh no matter how bad you feel and then think of it during the day :D
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paintsplatter166 Featured By Owner Nov 24, 2013

Thank you for writing this! It made me feel a bit better!

I still don't like my smile though... XD

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natalialala Featured By Owner Nov 24, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
thank you :)

sometimes people forget to be themselves, to love themselves , and lose faith in everything. we have to believe we can do everything we want, because we can. 
just focus on your goals and enjoy. i hope you enjoy life, just don't wish you're life were different, make it better everyday, one step at the time

and please don't forget, if you can't run, just keep walking XD
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HCStables Featured By Owner Nov 24, 2013  Student Digital Artist
And if you can't walk, you find someone to carry you. :) You're completely right-- believing you CAN do it is more than half the battle. Sometimes it just takes a little extra push. ^^
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natalialala Featured By Owner Nov 25, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
totally agree XD!
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cddmanful Featured By Owner Nov 24, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Wait-you say you have a bear with you?  :o [:XD:]  

Seriously, the best thing is to DO something--Sometimes any attempt, however lame, to better the world, and lift someone's day, is far, FAR better than doing nothing--and the moment you do anything like that, your own situation fades into the background--eventually for good.  Trust me--I have been doing this a LOOOONNGG time--some of you know how long--and it is absolutely true.

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mgwolf999 Featured By Owner Nov 24, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I have been bullyed a lot and very shy around others so it was kind of hard for me..... even to this very day :(
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natalialala Featured By Owner Nov 24, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
:( 

bullies should be bullied. i had one when i was at school, a nasty girl who said awfull things to me and about me XD, and years after all these annoying things she did to me, she apologized in a letter. we can't turn back time, and it was too late to apologize. 

i believe in karma. life is a weird thing, funny and cruel sometimes. You're never alone. Love yourself more than anything and don't let others bring you down :) 

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mgwolf999 Featured By Owner Nov 24, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
T-Thank you. I just had a lot of depression in my life, and I had lot surgerys (14 and counting) on just trying to be nomal, and on top of that bullies are messing with you, it's hard to over come it. But i'll try to not be shy around others. But I can't do it alone.....  
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natalialala Featured By Owner Nov 25, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
you are never alone, there is always someone close, just try looking arround :) life gives surprises everytime for those with the eye for them :) and even if it's hard, life it's beautifull. so be positive, and cheer up  
don't think about yourself as anormal. you, and everyone arround are different, because we are not the same. funny but true. and love yourself

 i was fat when i was little, and even nowadays i consider myself fat( i'm not obese, but i'm not thin). it was really hard for me to keep that away from me but i learned that your heart and your mind are bigger than your body ( and clearly more important and interesting) beauty comes and goes, and depends on who's looking. just think: we are all getting older XD my hair is going to me white some day, and i will never be as i am today. i can't suffer for every second i grow old. i can enjoy every minute because a minute later it's gone.

i admire your strength, doctors terrify me. and even if i feel that about it i just can't figure out how difficult it is for you to be there. so please stay positive :) you can do it!!!!


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mgwolf999 Featured By Owner Nov 25, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Thank you so much, I'll try real hard to do what I can. And I wish you luck with life and etc. :)
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natalialala Featured By Owner Nov 25, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
thank youuu :)

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mgwolf999 Featured By Owner Nov 25, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Your welcome :)
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natalialala Featured By Owner Nov 27, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
:)
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NanaThatha Featured By Owner Nov 24, 2013  Student General Artist
How do you have the courage to be so open and truly honest?!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!This totally describes me! I love this! And your right. Smile. Just simply smiling gets you friends, and you'll be happier as well.  Thank you. Everyone is beautiful ..........even me. Hug
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prorrie Featured By Owner Nov 24, 2013  Student Artist
But what if you are yourself and don't like to smile, but this guide tells you to smile
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aroundtheradar Featured By Owner Nov 24, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
You have such poise and elegance in your writing, it's truly inspiring.
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Theshylittleninja Featured By Owner Nov 24, 2013

This journal was really fun to read! I'm really insecure and junk too, and a teenage girl.

 

See, these are the kind of things everyone wished they could do, and its damn hard. But sister I commend you for trying!Cheerleader 

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Lady-Compassion Featured By Owner Nov 24, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Amen sister.....a double amen!
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Maximiuz2002 Featured By Owner Nov 23, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Lemons!? Lemons scare the crap out of my oranges and make them yellow!
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Sonicgenerations202 Featured By Owner Nov 23, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist

You have made my day! :)

Thank you for this up lifting journal!

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Maxernest Featured By Owner Nov 23, 2013   General Artist
What if your smile reminds you of something terrible?
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Capukat Featured By Owner Nov 23, 2013   General Artist
then smile on the inside
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derse-dreamers Featured By Owner Nov 22, 2013
this was quite uplifting!!!!!!!! thank u frien

kissu
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ocupers Featured By Owner Nov 21, 2013
keh, I've tried all of these, and all I've got to show for it is a broken heart. Depressed :sad: Very Sad EmoteHeartbrakeHeartbrakeHeartbrakeHeartbrakeHeartbrakeHeartbrakeHeartbrakeHeartbrakeHeartbrakeHeartbrakeHeartbrake
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Capukat Featured By Owner Nov 23, 2013   General Artist
Just voicing my opinions.
But it's still all on you, I'm afraid.
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IvypoolForever Featured By Owner Nov 22, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I'm sorry times are tough for you, but I'm sure you haven't done everything the journal says. Did you know smiling is proven to make you feel happier when times seem worst? Remember there is always someone who has it worse that you do, so instead of going and complaining, be grateful for everything you have and not what you don't have.
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ocupers Featured By Owner Nov 22, 2013
it just makes me feel like a weirdo

XD (but I'm feeling better today!!)
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IvypoolForever Featured By Owner Nov 23, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Even though you think you have a weird smile, it really works. Trust me ;D


I'm so happy you are feeling better, and I hope you continue  to.
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ocupers Featured By Owner Nov 21, 2013
ignore my signature
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MissBrillig Featured By Owner Nov 21, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
You definitely have all of this right. :)
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triadenforcer Featured By Owner Nov 21, 2013
I always figured the most effective way was to manually remove "unnecessary sugars" with a chainsaw.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=a2alHCNpx7A
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Rainiila Featured By Owner Nov 21, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Really motivating and sweet :)
Thanks for this, I'm facing this just so I can find it every couple of weeks, and smile ;)

This actually reminds me of a guy in my class. Everybody really likes him, just because he's always so happy, he's always joking, and he's really kind (even if you barely know him, he'll be kind to you). That's the attitude I wish I had.
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kurofoxie Featured By Owner Nov 20, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Thanks for making this journal ;w; <3 This is so motivating and sweet.
It helps me to focus on my school stuff and get into a good postgraduate-school :3
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Silverwing101 Featured By Owner Nov 19, 2013  Student General Artist
This was so sweet.
I try smiling, but it tends to creep others out. I have 'vampire' fangs, as people would call them and I've accidentally scared little kids before(I'm just a teen), so I don't smile much..
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AprilDiamond2001 Featured By Owner Nov 22, 2013
I have crooked teeth that are a bit yellow. Smile with your mouth closed. : )
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